Ever ask your kid what they want to be when they grow up?
I know lots of people recoil from the answers, especially when said answer seems to pigeonhole a certain fairer gender into a role their mothers and grandmothers have been fighting against for generations.
When the kid says "Nurse" the adult says, "Why not be a Doctor?"
When the kid says "Secretary" the adult says "How about being an Executive."
Of course no one gets too put out when the kid tells you they want to be a princess or a ballerina, because what are the odds? Right?
But when they say to you ... I want to be a mom and a wife ... what do you say?
I know lots of people, myself included, who say 'Yes, but you can be so much more.'
As I'm saying it -- as I'm telling my daughter that she can be a wife someday if she chooses to be, and she can be a mommy, too, but she can also be a writer or an artist or a lawyer or a banker or a politician or a nurse or a secretary as well if that's what she wants -- all I'm thinking is being a mommy is huge. It's perhaps the biggest thing she'll ever be, and to many, many, many people -- perhaps even herself one day -- it won't be enough.
Of course this mothering gig may never happen for Ittybit ... not the way she wants it to, anyway:
MOMMY: "What do you think you want to be when you grow up?
ITTYBIT: "I'm going to marry Elias when I grow up because I want to be a mommy. But I want you to born my babies, OK, because I don't want to get cut."
I guess now is as good a time as any to let her down gently. Hardly anyone's birthing plan ever goes the way they thought it would.